midnight thoughts

We all feel it—jealousy. That feeling is when you see someone doing something you’ve always wanted to do or achieving something you dream of. It can stir up emotions; before you know it, you're caught in a web of comparison. Then come the judgmental voices: "Why are you jealous? It’s not a good emotion," or "You should be happy for others." And sometimes, they even make fun of it. But here’s what I believe— jealousy is a natural emotion and part of who you are . You can’t just push it away. It’s there for a reason, and it's important to understand it rather than suppress it. Let me share with you how to turn this emotion into something positive. First things first: Know yourself. Look at what you have and understand what makes you unique. What are your strengths? What are your passions? Some of you might feel like you’re capable of nothing like you can’t do this or that. But trust me, you are. You are capable of so much more than you think. All it takes is ...

 Being born in winter is truly a unique privilege. Picture the scene: you enter the world during a time when everything around you seems to slow down as if life is pausing to take a breath. The air is crisp, and the landscape is blanketed in a serene layer of snow, evoking a sense of tranquility and purity. This time of year is associated with feelings of love and romance, creating an atmosphere of warmth amidst the cold. As a winter baby, you might find yourself filled with an irresistible longing to share your heart with someone special. The cozy embrace of a loved one feels especially enchanting during those chilly nights, wrapping you in a warmth that defies the cold outside. The snowflakes fall gently, mirroring the delicate feelings swirling in your heart, and you yearn to dive deeply into that connection, to lose yourself in the enchantment of love. Yet, there’s another side to you that contrasts starkly with this warmth. This side is often shrouded in darkness, where the fe...

 They say to be yourself, to embrace who you are, but in today’s fast-moving world, I can assure you that hardly anyone truly knows who they are. Many are simply following the same patterns as others. We often claim that everyone is different; it’s like a motto we live by. Yet, ultimately, we all seem to be the same, even as we strive so hard to distinguish ourselves within the concept of individuality. People are often unaware of their true selves and have convinced themselves that they are this or that. In our society, it’s all too common for us to categorize individuals into various boxes, which is truly unfortunate. This tendency stems from the immense societal pressure placed on people to conform to the idea of "being yourself." This pressure can be incredibly overwhelming and ultimately harms both self-esteem and confidence. Many individuals truly desire to express their authentic selves and showcase their unique identities. However, instead of feeling free to do so, th...

There’s a significant difference between abusive parents and those who correct you on your mistakes. Abusive parents often exhibit narcissistic traits; they overshadow their children and focus more on themselves. They either blame their kids for their issues or tend to dump their traumas indirectly onto their kids. They can be overly controlling and may still grapple with their unresolved traumas. While this behavior is detrimental, it’s important to recognize that not all the blame can be placed on them .  In contrast, parents who correct you usually try to help you grow and learn from your mistakes. They are navigating their challenges and may have come from tough and toxic environments. As a result, they tend to be sensitive toward their children; they don’t want their kids to end up like them. While they might not be overly gentle, they often strive to ensure that they don’t pass on their traumas. However, this can sometimes fail because they are also learning how to navigate l...

Why does no one teach us to accept our regrets? In a world so focused on self-healing and moving forward, it often feels like there’s no space for those of us haunted by our own mistakes. I’ve made choices I deeply regret, and while I’m working to grow from them, I find myself alone in that journey. When I search for advice or comfort online, all I seem to find is a chorus telling me that I’m hurting because someone else did me wrong—that I need to heal from the ways others have impacted me. But what about those of us who carry the weight of our own mistakes? The messages I find are so often framed around healing as the response to victimhood: if you’ve been wronged, you need to heal; if life’s hurt you, you need to move on. And there’s truth in that. We do need to let go of what others may have done to us and rise above it. But that narrative doesn’t speak to everyone. It’s a comfort to those who have been hurt by the world, yes, but it leaves out a vast community of people who look b...

Today, I came to realize a beautiful truth about myself: I feel everything deeply. I absorb sadness, not only my own but that of others as well, and I embrace happiness with just as much intensity. I don’t hold back or suppress my emotions. Instead, I honor them in private moments, allowing myself to cry or reflect, knowing that these feelings are a part of my journey. I give myself the space, patience, and love that I deserve, nurturing my soul as best I can, and striving not to be harsh with myself. Today, I understood love more deeply, feeling it in a way that transcends ordinary definitions. Love is often described as a bond between two people—a romantic label, like "boyfriend and girlfriend" or "husband and wife." But love, I believe, is more than a title or a category. It's a connection that defies names, an indescribable bond between two souls that is pure and powerful. Sometimes, love is simply the desire for another person’s happiness, even if they hav...

From a young age, society teaches us rigid definitions of what it means to be “good” or “bad.” These definitions come with a set of values and behaviors that are meant to define one’s character. However, there’s an overlooked aspect in this formula that warrants deeper attention: understanding. Rarely do we learn to look beyond labels and see the underlying causes behind people’s actions—especially if they are deemed “wrong” by societal standards. Being labeled as a culprit or a wrongdoer, while often seen as a straightforward negative, may carry deeper complexities that we ignore at our peril. Humans are not binary creatures. We are all constantly evolving, shaped by circumstances and experiences that are unique to us alone. Yet, society’s moral framework frequently fails to account for this. The pressures to “be good” often reduce people to a single dimension, overlooking the fact that most people—consciously or unconsciously—are exploring life and learning through trial and error. M...

HEYYYYY LOVELY PEOPLE ,   I’m so glad to be here! As a newcomer to this platform, I’m eager to make the most of it, leaving the rest to fate. I feel truly blessed to be able to connect to such a vast and inspiring world out there. Honestly, I never thought about starting a blog, but here I am. I’m excited to see how it all works and, most importantly, how many meaningful connections I can build along the way. As the title suggests, "Midnight Thoughts" will be the theme of my posts. I plan to share my reflections, my emotions, and the things I’ve read—sort of a mix of personal musings and reviews. I’ll also offer some advice here and there. So, stay tuned and join me on this journey! i love you alvayysssssssssssssss hehe 💟🎀 see you >>> 💗