Parenting Unfiltered: The Fine Line Between Guidance and Harm

There’s a significant difference between abusive parents and those who correct you on your mistakes. Abusive parents often exhibit narcissistic traits; they overshadow their children and focus more on themselves. They either blame their kids for their issues or tend to dump their traumas indirectly onto their kids. They can be overly controlling and may still grapple with their unresolved traumas. While this behavior is detrimental, it’s important to recognize that not all the blame can be placed on them.

 In contrast, parents who correct you usually try to help you grow and learn from your mistakes. They are navigating their challenges and may have come from tough and toxic environments. As a result, they tend to be sensitive toward their children; they don’t want their kids to end up like them. While they might not be overly gentle, they often strive to ensure that they don’t pass on their traumas. However, this can sometimes fail because they are also learning how to navigate life. You cannot solely blame two people for ruining your life.

 Many children these days seem to make it a trend to seek sympathy by claiming their parents were abusive when they don't truly understand what abusive parents are. Even if their parents raise their voices, these children may experience depression without recognizing their own mistakes. Whom do we blame? Perhaps the internet plays a role in this. In India, many children are born into highly toxic households, which can eventually lead to future suffering for the child.

I believe this is a result of societal pressures and prevalent illiteracy. In addition to parental responsibility, many parents are unsure about how to raise a child because they’ve been taught that a child needs to be entirely perfect and possess good manners. If a child dares to speak in front of them, it is often viewed as disrespectful. These phenomena are major issues in society that can destroy the lives of innocent children. It’s ironic: whom do we blame for all this? You might say culture, but who created it? Humans. You might say those stereotypes—who made them? Humans again. This creates an ongoing cycle, like a rat trap, that continues to be passed on to the next generation. Ultimately, the main issues stem from humans themselves!

Breaking free requires collective awareness, compassion, and the willingness to change. Only then can we escape this "rat trap" and create healthier, more nurturing environments for future generations.

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