"Healing From Regret: Embracing Mistakes and Finding Self-Forgiveness''

Why does no one teach us to accept our regrets? In a world so focused on self-healing and moving forward, it often feels like there’s no space for those of us haunted by our own mistakes. I’ve made choices I deeply regret, and while I’m working to grow from them, I find myself alone in that journey. When I search for advice or comfort online, all I seem to find is a chorus telling me that I’m hurting because someone else did me wrong—that I need to heal from the ways others have impacted me. But what about those of us who carry the weight of our own mistakes?

The messages I find are so often framed around healing as the response to victimhood: if you’ve been wronged, you need to heal; if life’s hurt you, you need to move on. And there’s truth in that. We do need to let go of what others may have done to us and rise above it. But that narrative doesn’t speak to everyone. It’s a comfort to those who have been hurt by the world, yes, but it leaves out a vast community of people who look back with regret at the damage they themselves have caused. It’s painful when the weight you’re carrying isn’t something that was done to you but something you did yourself.

I’m learning to accept my mistakes. I know I’ve done wrong, and I take full responsibility for that. Yet I feel an emptiness, as though society doesn’t have room for those who are not just hurting, but regretful. There’s a different kind of pain in realizing you’ve hurt someone, and it’s a pain that can’t be undone by just moving on. It can feel like life has closed its doors to you—that redemption is reserved for those who suffered at the hands of others, not those who suffer at the hands of their own actions.

I want to heal, not because I was wronged, but because I want to forgive myself for the wrongs I’ve done. Regret can be isolating, and in those moments, it feels as if the world has abandoned people like me, people who look at their mistakes and want desperately to do better. It’s easy to feel like there’s no path forward, like life has ended because we feel unworthy of a second chance. Yet maybe, just maybe, healing could mean learning to live with our regrets, not as punishments, but as reminders that we’re human, capable of growth, and deserving of redemption too.

I want to remind you that you are loved, no matter what. Your existence matters. Humans continuously evolve, and making mistakes is part of that journey. It's important to learn from these mistakes and move forward with a heart full of love and humility for yourself.

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